You are NOT a Lay Away Item!

Gentlemen, many of you are familiar with the “friend zone”. After investing your valuable time, emotions, and money, you were rewarded with all the responsibility of a boyfriend, but none of the benefits. When all of it was followed by the humiliation of watching the girl you desperately loved walk off with some guy she met over the weekend, I wouldn’t blame you if you wrote females off entirely. But, for future reference, never let yourself be treated like a disposable boyfriend for any reason. I don’t care how much you love “that girl”. If she doesn’t offer you the same love and respect you offer her, she isn’t worth your time. You deserve to feel like a self – sustaining, upright man. Advice columns that tell everyone that men should be simpering, submissive, lap dogs are disgusting propaganda. The only way to end the perpetuation of this unfair treatment is for you to stop settling for something less than an equal partnership with someone who genuinely loves you. Real love doesn’t put you on hold, keep you in reserve in case it can’t find something better, or leech away your self respect. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

Yours ever, Lady of Letters


Outline for Partnership

I don’t mean to hate on women. That’s really not my intent. There are just too many loving men in my life who’ve been hurt by girls who didn’t understand what they had. It pains me, because these amazing men are my brothers, my dad, my cousins, and my uncles. I would rather it not be my son, too.
In an ideal relationship, both parties should come in with a realistic idea of what they have to offer each other. Lasting love and trust aren’t built on romance, but service. That’s what I mean when I mention realistic standards of partnership. Serving each other invites love. Some girls will never experience the pure joy that is a good man’s love, simply because they won’t give of themselves with no thought of gain. I feel sorry for them.

Little hypocrisies that make me cringe

“I just want someone who loves me for being me” is the biggest load of crock I’ve ever heard. How can you possibly expect that level of commitment when “being you” is fat, dishonest, jobless, and generally unlikeable? I especially loathe it when the same people who utter this most annoying sentence turn around and demand their men change for them because they’ve decided they want the latest rom-com boyfriend model, and the partners they have aren’t it. Gentlemen, as a woman and a lady, I demand that you demand better for yourselves. You are objectified just as much as women are. set a realistic standard of partnership and avoid the dependapotamus at all costs!


Financial abuse is most definitely a “thing”, and women have become masters of it, intentionally or not. A woman who spends her partner’s earnings without any consideration for consequences is about as helpful as a broken teaspoon in a sinking raft. And yet, it’s one of the most common marital horror stories that I’ve heard.  When you go out and blow your household income on an entire new wardrobe for that part time job you’re planning to maybe apply for, you relinquish your right to wonder why your partner is angry.