Financial abuse is most definitely a “thing”, and women have become masters of it, intentionally or not. A woman who spends her partner’s earnings without any consideration for consequences is about as helpful as a broken teaspoon in a sinking raft. And yet, it’s one of the most common marital horror stories that I’ve heard.  When you go out and blow your household income on an entire new wardrobe for that part time job you’re planning to maybe apply for, you relinquish your right to wonder why your partner is angry.